I first was exposed to BDSM at the age of 11(
I am 36 now), through John Norman's Gor novels. At the time I didn't know
it was S/m based, with age comes insight LOL.
As my teens ended, I knew I wanted someone who liked the
"kink" as me. I read books, anything BDSM based, and
practiced. My poor couch, it was flogged mercilessly as I became more skilled
in the use of my whips, crops, and knots. I became confidant in what I
wanted in a partner. By adulthood I had acted many partners "dark fantasies"
out but it was still only playing. I wanted more.
Then by luck or fate my neighbor and I started dating.
We became intimate, and surprise! We found out that we both wanted b/d,
d/s, s/m in a relationship. We were married (14 years ago) and as the
saying goes, living happily ever after.
Now the break down in my house is as follows:
D/s: d/s in my house centers around the life practical,
Jenny (my wife/sub/slave) does not work outside the home. She maintains
the home as I like it. She cooks what I want when I say.
B/d: this comes into play in both areas. First,
she dresses in what I've picked out for the day, her behavior is how I
like it, (ranging from prude to slut/whore). She must at all times wear
her collar no exception are allowed. Also she must perform any erotic act
at any time with whomever I say.
S/m: this is solely in the erotic play areas, the tortures
she must endure and submit completely to.